I had no reason — whatsoever — to think I had it in me to do this.
I’m talking about freelancing, but more specifically, writing.
No prior experience, no college education.
All I had was a desire. A deep, burning passion for expressing myself through the written word.
It was strong enough to overtake just about everything else, including any self-doubt I had.
Now before I go on, let me just mention that I know a thing or two about doubt.Doubt kills dreams, destroys visions and gets in the way of everything good.Click To Tweet
But most of us live with doubt, so we continue to do the same thing, over and over again as we live our lives by default.
We stay in the crappy jobs we hate because we don’t see a way out. We shove our talents and abilities under the rug because we don’t think we have what it takes to create something worthwhile.
While Brent and his guests on Better Freelancing so eloquently demonstrate how the world of freelancing is filled with opportunities and possibilities, the hard cold truth is:
None of that insight will go do any good if we continue to live with doubt.
It’s one thing to consume beneficial information, but being able to receive that info and put it to good use is another.
That’s why the doubt has to be dealt with before it pops up again and again.
So now that I’ve pointed all of this out, what’s the solution?
How do you let go of the chains that bind you and allow yourself to explore your dreams of becoming a freelancer?
I have a few ideas that I’m about to share with you.
The good news is, you can start implementing them right away.
The bad news is — it’ll require a constant guarding of your thoughts and beliefs about yourself. You’ll also need to be consistent.
Once you’ve done this though, you’ll experience a level of freedom unlike anything you’ve ever known.
I’m talking about freedom of mind. That’s where everything starts.
This post isn’t meant to be skimmed over. It’s designed to expand your perspective and change your life. Read it slowly and carefully.
So grab a cup of coffee, a green juice or some lemon/ cucumber water — sit back and absorb what I have to say.
The 3 Qualities Every Successful Freelancer Embodies…
…and without these three things, you will fail as a freelancer!
Ready to begin?
Self-awareness is the main ingredient when it comes to just about everything we do.
The reason is because unless we’re aware of the thoughts and beliefs we hold about ourselves, life and others — we’ll never be in the position to question them and change them from an authentic place.
A place that’s free from the emotional turbulence that so often dictates our decision making abilities.
I know this may come as a surprise, but a lot of us aren’t acutely aware of our self-doubts. Instead, they become chronic conditions of our internal environment.
They linger in the background. They make themselves known in the recordings of our minds, circling our inner world via auto-play.
But in truth, most of the time, we aren’t paying close attention to this.
Instead, what we truly think and believe about ourselves and life in general show up when we make a decision to escape our comfort zone.
They appear as feelings of extreme discomfort.
Presenting themselves as obstacles, we find ourselves facing our perceived shortcomings and inabilities. Instead of staring them square in the face, we back down and allow doubt to take over.The belief that we don’t have enough experience, support or talent weakens us.Click To Tweet
As painful as it is, we stick with what’s comfortable, even if it makes us miserable.
The solution is to be brave enough to observe ourselves in the process of thinking. It helps to think of ourselves as a spectator watching a film or listening to a conversation.
Get yourself into a neutral state of being and pay attention to the dialogue taking place in your mind as soon as a challenge presents itself.
Question it. Dissect it. And then go and look for examples of those who have succeeded with what you’re looking to accomplish.
These days, information is everywhere. If you want to see what’s possible, all you have to do is seek out others who have shared their stories of success. You’ll find that most, if not all of them have had their fair share of hurdles — many of which may be similar to yours.
The more you do this, the less doubt you’ll have.
Self-awareness is the act of examining what takes up residence within you. You can apply new behaviors at any time, but first, it helps to clear out the clutter taking up so much room in your mind.
Be willing to witness yourself.
Without judgment, own yourself. This is how you begin to free your mind.
(2) Healthy Living
Healthy living isn’t about having six pack abs and a bikini body… although it can certainly lead to that.
It’s about well-being.
When we take care of ourselves, we just feel better. The act of self-care is a form of respect. It’s a way to demonstrate love, compassion and joy toward yourself. This transfers to the outside world. Believe it or not, it plays a huge role when it comes to being a successful freelancer.When you live a healthy life, you simply operate from a different level of consciousness.Click To Tweet
Confidence shines through when challenges come knocking at your door — which they will. This makes you become more responsible. You’ll become a better contractor because you’ll do everything with care.
You can’t give away what you don’t have, so if you want to feel good about your work and how you present yourself to your prospective clients, it must start with how you take care of yourself.
When you eat high quality, nutrient dense foods, you think clearly. When your digestion is tied up with junk, it’s tough to concentrate and move with agility — even when that movement is from the mental plane — where everything originates.
When you exercise, you get your blood flowing. You’re distributing oxygen to your cells, muscles and everything else in your body that keeps you alive and functioning at peak capacity.
Not to mention, as I had written in my post about the damage of sitting for too long, exercise is a way to prevent the aches and pains that accompany some of the effects of doing specific types of freelance work, like spending time at the computer for hours at a time.
All around, healthy living will work to your advantage in every way imaginable.
And speaking of the imagination…
Let’s face it. Logic is awesome.
But logic without creativity is boring – and limiting.
In order to make it as a freelancer, it takes having a mind open to everything and attached to nothing.
I didn’t make that up. Wayne Dyer did. But I was creative enough to add it in here smoothly. That’s how my brain works…
I AM my imagination.
Creativity isn’t limited to snatching something out of thin air like magic — or a dehumidifier — although it could work that way and often does.
Being creative can also include being inspired by someone else and adding your own unique spin to something, expanding on its message and impacting those who stand to benefit from what you have to express.Creativity in freelancing is about staying open to possibilities and suspending your disbelief.Click To Tweet
Once that pesky self-doubt is removed and you treat your body with some dignity and respect, you’ll be surprised to see just how creative you can be – even when it comes to obstacles.
I see obstacles and roadblocks as opportunities to examine a bigger picture.
When life screws with me, I don’t run away. I seek answers.
Sometimes those answers show up in the form of additional questions. But the better the questions – the more of them that show up, the more expansive the answers become.
You gain a broader picture of what you’re seeing. The creative nature within us isn’t limited to the arts. It involves critical thinking and using discernment.
It’s about being curious. Wisdom is part of the creative process.
When you take a step back from what you’re experiencing and observe, you see things from multiple angles. This expands your perspective and encourages you to take risks and chances you would have never considered before because your world isn’t so limited and fixed.
Everyone here, including you, is a piece of something larger. But within us, we contain the entirety of everything.
The spark of life.
You’re here, so it’s safe to say you matter.
Your existence means you are meant to do something worthwhile — whatever that is.
I can assure you, though, that it isn’t so you can slave away doing something you hate — especially if you have other options.
And you do have options.
So know that you have what it takes to succeed with this, even if means redefining your idea of success.
For some people, success is about making a great living. For others, it’s coming in close contact with what makes their heart sing and allowing this to flow out of them freely and on their terms.
Defining success on your terms is an act of creativity in and of itself.
- What you think, you believe.
- What you believe, you enact.
- What you enact, you create.
Now you have the tools in which to do so.
So Who Am I to Offer This Insight?
As I’d mentioned at the beginning of this post, I had a desire to express myself through writing, but I wasn’t equipped with the tools I thought I would need to succeed.
For three quarters of my life, I allowed self-doubt to squash my dreams.
One day, life became painful enough for me to finally wake up and just start doing something different.
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After spending many years severely overweight and stuck in a career I didn’t enjoy, I went ahead and took a risk by attending and investing in personal training school. I also took a huge cut in my income to take a job that felt more closely aligned with something I’d prefer to do with my time.
The curriculum at that school was tough, and I was no scholar.
In fact, I almost flunked out of high school.
But I did it.
I graduated with high marks and a perfect attendance record. I worked two part time jobs, did side work and spent the rest of my time studying and exercising.
I also dropped a lot of weight and did it the right way. That was a bonus I hadn’t even thought about when I’d first made the decision to stick my toe in this river of uncertainty that ended up changing the course of my life.
I was finally inspired to start writing because I felt passionate about something.
When the why became clear, eventually, so did the how.
Without even seeking this information out, I stumbled across platforms that allowed me to write and publish my content. I did this for a while, built up my confidence and went on to write for others.
This led to guest posting opportunities, freelance work and more.
Today, I’m a wellness coach, author and freelance writer.
I wrote my first book a few years ago about exercise safety. Writing a book was always something I had wanted to do, but I didn’t think it would ever happen.
The desire was strong. Stronger than anything else I can remember.
As I’d mentioned earlier, I had no formal education or experience as a writer. Basically, there was no physical evidence that would have made me believe I’d be able to complete such a task.
But because I’d kept an open mind and surrounded myself with the types of material that reminded me that all possibilities exist, my dream became a reality.
I’d also received an award of merit for writing it.
My first award ever.
At 40 years old, that was a big damn deal. Not because of the plaque, and not because of my ego.
It mattered to me because at one point in my life, I didn’t think I had anything worthwhile to say.
So the fact that a well-respected and highly regarded educator in the fitness industry rewarded my efforts to educate the public about unsafe exercise practices helped me to understand, in hindsight, why it was so necessary to get out of my own way and just do something, even if it meant risking failure.
I make mistakes. I don’t always get what I want. Life isn’t perfect.
But I love what I do. I live my truth.
I’m here sharing this message with you because I had no idea how I would change my life, yet I did anyway.
I listen to my inner dialogue. I observe my thoughts and question my beliefs without judging them.
I stay open to all possibilities. My definition of success is freedom of mind.
I’ve accomplished this because I’ve followed the advice I’ve offered here today.
I just want to thank Brent for letting me share my thoughts here. He’s an inspiration and a wealth of information to all of us looking to become successful freelancers.
And here, he didn’t set out to do any of this until recently. If you want to be inspired by someone who took the bulls by the horn and decided to find a way to live his life on his terms, check out Brent’s story.
I’d call that gutsy.
You have guts, too. You just have to believe that.
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